Let It Be Easy

The fact that there are options means you get to choose. The more options you realize, the more power you can use. One of those option is whether to make something difficult or to let it be easy.

Fancy that.

Everything is happening the way it is, and it will continue this way. All I can ever do is be where I am, dealing with what is in front of me and what is inside of me. Either way, that’s it. Whether I make it difficult or let it be easy, that’s it. I don’t think I have to take a vote on this one, I think all of you would choose ease. So, why don’t we?

It all comes back to that pervasive personal lie that something is wrong with me. And, that lie is compounded by the HSP tendency to think very deeply and be excellent at analysis. SO, if something is wrong with me then I have to try and make up for that by being instrumental, i.e. being wanted for what I DO rather than who I AM. Therefore, that means there are right and wrong things to do. I can make a simple trip to the grocery store very difficult by making sure I don’t do it “wrong”. “What are the BEST things to buy? When is the BEST time to go? What if it’s crowded? What if I forget something? What if… What if… What if…”

After events, I have to analyze everything I did and said to make sure I didn’t do it “wrong” and wonder what everyone is thinking about me. Was I good enough?

I have to find the most important thing to do with my life right now and spend lots of time wondering what it is, feelings stressed because I haven’t found my all-important calling that will change the world.

I can’t start projects or even tasks because I have made it into a gigantic event with a million details that is now too daunting to start.

And, I SURELY can’t put myself out there, sharing and using my incredible talents, because then they would all see that I’m really a fraud. They would see that there is something wrong with me…and then what?!

So, I end up at a job I don’t like, feeling alone, and missing out on NOW because I am so consumed with the past and the future…which are illusions.

Have you ever seen a cat playing with a ball of yarn…or that SNL skit with Vince Vaughn and Will Ferrell playing with Delco cat toys? (I searched really hard and couldn’t find the clip…sorry, I really am.) That’s what you are doing when you fixate on a thought. You start picking at it and playing with it, messing with it over and over…and missing the fact that the whole big wide world is just sitting there at your beck and call…because you are so focused on obsessing over that one little thought.

Rule of thumb: If it doesn’t let you breathe easier, drop it.

I literally check my breath as a barometer for how I might be restricting myself. HSPs are chronic shallow breathers. That leads to a whole host of health issues. Take a few good, deep ones right now.

If it doesn’t let you feel more expansive, drop it.

If it doesn’t remind you that you are already just right, drop it.

So, I dare you to notice any time you try to pick apart your day and just drop it. It’s already just right. Let it be easy. Just be here and now trusting that it is already just right. When things seem to be getting jammed up or frustrating, do what comes naturally. Let yourself be frustrated and let go of figuring out the “right” thing to do or worrying about how “wrong” everything is.

Being a victim is hard work. And, it’s sneaky. Any time you think that there is nothing you can do and you feel that you simply have to react to what the world throws at you…that’s being a victim. ANY time there is something you want that you are not doing anything to get it and instead hoping you will get lucky, you are being a victim. Any time you don’t like something and you are hoping it will pass instead of doing something to change it, you are being a victim.

Being a victim is not easy. It’s pretty difficult and no fun.

You are a powerful agent. You can act. You can therefore, be proactive as well as reactive. This is your life. LIVE IT. When you notice how you are feeling, what is in front of you, and do what feels best to you that is ease. When you don’t make yourself follow rules about right and wrong and instead you let yourself decide what the easiest thing would be to help you get what you want most directly, you are acting most responsibly. It benefits EVERYONE.

Ease is different than being lazy. Lazy is avoidance. Ease is facing life head on and trusting that you belong, so you do what you most want in the most direct way possible.

Even not knowing what to do is not an excuse, find someone to ask. Find someone to guide you.

This is it. You are a giant. Step into that. It’s so difficult to squeeze into small spaces where you don’t fit. It’s no fun to keep hiding and crouching. As Marianne Williamson is often quoted, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be?….Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”